The “100 THINGS WE ALL WONDER ABOUT NONNIE JULES” Blog Tour Day 8– #RRBC

What a thrill to be hosting Nonnie Jules today!  Please take the time to discover her books and amazing achievements.

 

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GIVEAWAYS:

(2) $10 Amazon Gift Cards

(1) $5 Amazon Gift Card

(2) e-book copies of “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE…”

ULTIMATE PRIZE GIVEAWAY #1:

Anyone who purchases a copy of “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE…” “DAYDREAM’S DAUGHTER, NIGHTMARE’S FRIEND” or “IF ONLY THERE WAS MUSIC” and send to me a copy of the purchase receipt to nonniejules@gmail.com, and also leave a comment along the tour, will get their name entered into a drawing for a $50 Amazon gift card! One entry for each book that is purchased, whether in e-book or paperback format. Purchases must take place between 2/14/16 – 2/29/16. If you’ve already purchased all of my books, then feel free to gift a friend, just for the chance to win!!! Spend a little, and you could win a lot!!!

ULTIMATE PRIZE GIVEAWAY #2:

Anyone who reads and posts a review of “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE…” “DAYDREAM’S DAUGHTER, NIGHTMARE’S FRIEND” or “IF ONLY THERE WAS MUSIC” and sends the link to their review to nonniejules@gmail.com, will get their name entered into a drawing for a $20 Amazon gift card! One entry for each book read and reviewed. Reviews must be posted between 2/16/16 – 3/15/16 to be placed into the drawing.

 

Q: You’ve put on some really great shows on your other stops, but here, since it’s Sunday, we’re going to take it easy on you, Nonnie. These questions will be light (although it seems everyone’s enjoying the heavyweight questions for you). What is the one word you don’t like used in the description of you and why?

A: Believe it or not, I have a problem with being called “pretty.” All my life it’s what I grew up hearing and I’m one of these “pretty deep” individuals, you know, I want everything to be “of substance,” especially me. So, as I got older and tried extremely hard to pull away from that label, if I was called “pretty” or “beautiful” I’d say, “Why thank you! If you think my outside is pretty/beautiful, you should meet my brain!” That sort of statement throws people for a loop because whether we’d like to admit it or not, we live in a pretty shallow world. I remember going to my 1st (and only) high school reunion many years ago and as I walked in, I remember Richard Carr (yes, I still remember his name) saying, “Here she comes, and she’s still got that same pretty face.” And so, the more the conversation stayed on that topic, the more offended I became. I said to the table, “You know what, I’ve got really huge things going on in my life now. I’m a mom, I’ve got bills, a mortgage, a husband, there’s war… you know, I’ve larger than life things to talk about than just my looks. So, if this is where you all are stuck, I’m not interested in the conversation.” So, I walked away from that table and I’ve never returned to another reunion. My girlfriend called me that night and she said, “Everyone was just concerned and some couldn’t really understand why you would be offended at that compliment.” And so, I explained it to her again…a little slower that time. You see, when you are more than just your face, when you are more than just your body, you want to be recognized for something more. I always want to be known, referred to and acknowledged for my mind. Yes, pretty was good enough when I was in high school and I needed it to work for me. I don’t need it anymore because I truly know who I am. You can call someone else pretty…I think I’ll pass, but let me introduce you to something truly beautiful…my mind. (In full disclosure, I must be honest and say, that I think it’s OK to use “pretty” when I’m pulled over for speeding. It does come in handy, at times! LOL). And by the way, I know MANY, MANY, MANY TRULY BEAUTIFUL LADIES IN THE WORLD, AND I’M NOT ONE OF THEM! (But, my daughters would be two of them! Just an FYI! They’re gorgeous!!!)

 

Q: WOW! That was pretty deep (no pun intended here). So, let’s move on to your first book, “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS: 100 Tips On Raising Daughters Everyone Can’t Help but Love!” I’ve read in other forums that this is your most favorite, out of the 4 books that you’ve written. Can you tell us why?

A: I most certainly can! I love children, especially girls (can’t you tell?) I love this book because it’s teaching the world how to raise the (almost) perfect daughters…(almost) perfect girls, who will one day hopefully, turn into Ladies who will run the world in the most positive of ways. I see some moms with their daughters and I cringe at what they are teaching them. My heart goes out to these girls, because they have the wrong examples in front of them…not their moms, per se, but the behavior that the moms are exhibiting or allowing in front of their daughters. I have a friend whose ex-husband cheated on her all thru their marriage. He fathered all 4 of her children and he has never supported one of them. Some would say, she’s not attractive and I think she believes just that about herself. I think she’s beautiful because of who she is on the inside…and that’s all that matters. She lets men abuse and disrespect her, and all of this occurs in front of her two daughters and it infuriates me. So, I’ve asked her, “Do you know that you are teaching your daughters that it is OK for men to abuse, mistreat and disrespect them? That’s the message you are sending by allowing them to see you in these situations.” Through teary eyes, she said to me, “I don’t have your strength. I don’t have your pretty, either. So, I take what I can get in a man.” Sadly, her oldest daughter is following in her mom’s footsteps in her pattern of behavior with men.   This book was penned not only for girls, it was also meant to help women who are struggling, too. There are many lessons between the covers of this little gem of a book. In the chapter entitled BOYS & MEN, tip # 10 is: “TEACH HER HOW TO EXPECT TO BE TREATED BY A MAN. THEN SHE’LL KNOW WHEN SHE’S NOT BEING TREATED WELL, AND WILL REFUSE TO TOLERATE IT.” Now, that’s a lesson for us all, isn’t it? There are 99 more great tips just like this in the book, so do, check it out, gift it or recommend it. I’d really appreciate it!

Q: What’s your favorite hobby?

A: Since I was a child, having to answer this question on any form and all through my adult-hood, the answer has always been READING!

Q: With your busy schedule, a YES to this next question might surprise us all. Do you cook?

A: I most certainly do cook and a great cook I am! I don’t cook every day of the week, but for the most part, they get home-cooked meals. I even make breakfast on the weekends (but dinner on the weekends for them is usually prepared by our favorite restaurants). My girlfriend’s uncle said to me once: “You can’t cook. Everyone knows pretty girls can’t cook.” So, you all have to know that I made him dinner and still to this day, every time I see him, he shakes his head in disbelief and says: “I still can’t believe that you can cook!” He’s about 78 years old so it must have really shocked him because he still remembers. It’s too funny!

Q: OK, random question time, can you swim?

A: Honey, all I can do on a beach is look good in a swim suit. Sorry! Jenny, thanks for having me. It was great fun!

 

To follow Nonnie’s tour and to get more of your questions answered, please visit her Blog Tour Page on the 4WillsPub site http://wp.me/P43s9i-FEw. Thanks for stopping by today and good luck on winning some of these great prizes!

 

CONTACT NONNIE VIA:

Twitter: http://twitter.com/nonniejules

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BooksByNonnie

Blogs: www.nonniewrites.wordpress.com , www.BooksByNonnie.wordpress.com & www.AskTheGoodMommy.wordpress.com

 

TRAILERS and Books:

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BOOK – “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS,”

https://youtu.be/zg15rptFN2g

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“DAYDREAM’S DAUGHTER, NIGHTMARE’S FRIEND,”

https://youtu.be/qbUK3XQ5-dA

NJ Cover Design

“SUGARCOATIN’ IS FOR CANDY & PACIFYIN’ IS FOR KIDS,” https://youtu.be/fQBnt0wix88

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“IF ONLY THERE WAS MUSIC,” https://youtu.be/g2gNns8ZVFI

 

 

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54 thoughts on “The “100 THINGS WE ALL WONDER ABOUT NONNIE JULES” Blog Tour Day 8– #RRBC

  1. I loved your take on being known for just your good looks, Nonnie. I too am saddened by the messages our society sends to women and young girls alike: being pretty is the be-all and end-all. This is one of my favourite tips from “The Good Mommies’ Guide”. I used to say to my female teenaged students, “Being beautiful will certainly grab a guy’s attention, but how do you plan to hang on to him? There’d better be some depth to you!” Thanks for having us over, Jenny!

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  2. Hi Jennifer and Nonnie! Nonnie, I love that you don’t take your looks too seriously, and that you are committed to doing “for others.” When it comes to parenting, I agree with you about the importance of setting examples for our children. Have you noticed a trend that parents are not providing children with a dependable family structure, and that they want to be “friends” with their kids rather than grownups? Is this just the US? It feels to me like a form of neglect. I don’t know. Call me crazy. Thank you, Jennifer and Nonnie, for a fabulous interview. You are both amazing!

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    1. Robin, there’s a tip in my book, THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE on just that. It tells the moms that they should be moms to their daughters. They will have plenty of time to be their friends. I’d say that when I’m 80 and maybe my daughter is 45 then we can be friends!

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    1. I’m a bit strict when I need to be, my husband is the good cop (I’m the bad one). I look forward to the day that I can hang out with them in other ways (but Bill, partying won’t be one of them) #OldLadiesInBars #WearingHalterTopsNShorts #NotAGoodLook LOL!

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  3. It’s definitely unfortunate that the compliments we give girls are always about their appearance. I find myself trying to make an effort to find something some substantive to say to my son’s little kindergarten friends, because it starts even at that age and younger.
    Also, I’m going to be all worried about you, Nonnie, now that I know you don’t know how to swim! 😉

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  4. I am just loving these Q&A tours. I’m afraid my questions aren’t as good as these. Anyway, Nonnie you need to stop stressing over how folks perceive you. Smile at them, thank them and never see them again. Kill em with kindness I always say and be thankful you have the looks and a brain to go with it. On another note sometimes being beautiful can be a curse. I had a young man once say to me that men treat beautiful women bad so they won’t know how gorgeous they really are. They are just that intimidated by beauty. How sad is that? But it explains a whole lot.

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    1. Ms. Shirley, now where did you get, from anything I’ve said, that I give a hoot about how people perceive me? I think YOU know me better than that. Retraction: I think anyone who has read anything I’ve ever written, would know how I feel about others opinions of me. Wasting precious thoughts on those kinds of things, not how I have ever lived my life, and that won’t be changing anytime soon. You confused me with that one. Have fun and thanks for stopping by!

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    2. And men have only ever been allowed to treat me in the manner in which I have given them permission…and that is like a Queen. I have never, nor will I ever, give anyone the OK, or send the message that I will accept anything less.

      I honestly wish that confidence for every lady/woman in the world.

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  5. So true, Nonnie. If a woman lets a man treat her badly it not only tells her daughters it is okay for a man to treat her that way, it also tells her sons that is it okay for them to treat women that way. I hate that we live in a society where women are judged by their looks.

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  6. Hi Nonnie. I have to say that this is one of the most fun (Most fun? Funnest?) tours I’ve been on in a while! It’s a great idea, and I’m glad I get to follow along. Jenny, thanks so much for hosting today.

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  7. Great interview Jenny! I have a friend who is beautiful and very clever, but her parter at the time demolished her confidence and left her a shadow of herself. She is a tiny woman with bundles of energy who everyone loves. She later met a lovely man who only wanted to build her up and support her, but she was too shattered to believe he could be genuine. She had to learn to believe and trust in herself to have self worth. Luckily she is flourishing now and smiling again.

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    1. Lizzie, those stories sadden me. I refuse with a capital REFUSE, to ever give anyone that kind of power over me. But, it’s all about knowing who you are. You can call me stupid all day long, and I’m going to turn around and ask you to SPELL IT! Most often, it is the ones with the most serious issues and low self-esteem, who try to intimidate and brow beat others into feeling small. They do it to try and make themselves feel taller, but I’m sorry, I will NOT allow you to grow at my expense. WE must know who WE are before we can teach others who we are! #IKnowWhoIAm #BelieveThat

      THE END!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  8. Body ‘fascism’ works against men too – luckily being ‘nerdy’ is less derogatory these days, but lord help a guy if he’s short, bald and not athletic, or earning big bucks… It’s no wonder people constantly disappoint us when we’re all conditioned to take everyone at face ‘value’ – it just makes those who don’t measure up to shallow benchmarks feel inadequate and miserable, and the people who do, feel frustrated because they’re labelled for life and rarely taken seriously.
    Viva the individuals and the eccentrics I say! 😀 Looking for to your next stop Nonnie and thanks for hosting today Jennie 😀

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  9. I’ve heard lots of sad comments in my day, but one of the top 5 was when I was at a gas station one day, a guy came over to me and asked if he gave me his phone number, would I call? I said to him “No, I wouldn’t because I am married.” He said: “I knew it, because pretty girls like you would never talk to a guy like me.” I cried right in front of him, and said to him that I was not one of those girls. Truly it broke my heart, though. That’s why, although women might look at me and perceive otherwise, this face does not define me…my heart and the way I treat people, does. Great comments, guys! Thanks for taking the time!

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    1. Joy, yes, you are correct on all counts! (Although, I’m going to need you to sound a bit more convinced of my culinary skills…I CAN COOK!!!!!!! LOL) Thanks for dropping by! Are you still on a plane?

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